It is in our common language to use the saying: “Let it go”. With love, we generally suggest this technique to family members and to friends who had a bad experience, or are feeling resentment, or are holding a grunge to someone, towards something, or towards a place.
This is a marvellous technique and we all use it, but sometimes we misinterpret what letting go means and, instead of actually “letting go” we keep everything in.
Thus, we believe we are doing a great job to “let it go” but in reality we are compounding those feelings.
They get pressed down, inside of us in such a way that we even became unaware of their existence in us.
They became like a rock we carry around, like a ball and chain we drag, day in day out.
By doing so, little by little, we are darkening our soul and we became unable to feel and express innocent, instinctive joy, which is one of the juices of life. We are unable to experience bliss [we start surviving in life instead of living]. It is said that this burden has negative effects to our health as well.
By pushing down the “bad feelings” such as anger, resentment, sometimes rage, when we “let it go” or as soon as they come up again in to the surface [the conscious part of our mind] as soon as we became aware of them again.
Sometimes, for some people [who, for example, have a malfunction of the Cingular system of the brain which regulates the thoughts in our mind so as to avoid obsess thinking] this is even more painful since those feelings and the thoughts connected with them start to ‘mud’ all our mind and thinking.
We start thinking about the episode over and over again, we even create different outcomes to the episode itself so that we can feel better about it, we are completely delusional, not only because we live in the past, but also because we truly believe we’ve have been wronged whist failing to recognise that we attract situations that makes feel that way because we need to “let it go”.
“How do we really ‘let it go’ then?” If we do not let go the anger, the resentment, the rage, the vendetta by ‘trying to forget about it’ what we do really need to do to be free and experience joy, happiness and freedom [in our mind and in our life]?
First of all we need to remind ourselves that every single time we experience anger, resentment, those are not the ‘real feelings’, those are the feeling of our ‘facade’.
I am not trying to say that anger, resentment, etc…do not exist, since they do but if we hold on to them and we are unable to experience what sits beneath them, we are acting out of our ‘facade’, we are disconnected from our soul, we have closed that connection for various reasons all connected to the abandonment we’ve been experiences as children.
Have you have ever seen a child expressing anger? How long he is able to express anger? 5 / 10 seconds max and then he cries out of grief, this is a normal situation when the child is allowed to express his feelings and he is not restricted.
There are some children that are not allowed to express anger, let alone grief, so they became dull [unable to experience innocent, instinctive joy]. Their soul is broken.
What I am trying to say is that beneath the anger and the resentments we experience, even as adults, there is grief.
We have to experience that grief if we want really “let go” otherwise we are not only running round in circle but we actually we are making the problem bigger and bigger: the Universe will send us more and more situations where we’ll need to feel that grief, even more evident with more consequences, and we will run away from it [like it was a fire] by compounding anger and resentment, until we will find the humbleness to feel our ‘real’ feeling.
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