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A LIFE OF AVOIDANCE IS JUST A SURVIVAL MECHANISM

We all postpone, postponing is is a way of avoiding something. We avoid things we do not like and we do things we like, we avoid pain and search pleasure.  To understand which pain we are avoiding we have, as usual, to analyse our motives: Which pain are we trying to avoid?  Obviously if we are avoiding going to the gym, for example, we might be avoiding the physical pain of exercising.  But sometimes in analysing our motives, we have to look at the underling feelings of "what do do not like" since sometimes it is not the activity itself we are postponing / avoiding but it is the feelings it creates. We are postponing feelings, certain feelings, those which cause pain. For example, if we are postponing to write a post on our blog (nothing personal here...LOL) it could be that we are avoid some fears, for example fears of feeling rejected or inadequate or not being loved or liked.  We may find ourselves trying to avoid facing an addiction not to feel some feelings too.  If you