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Mme BOVARY AND HER STRUGGLE WITH SELF-ACCEPTANCE

The clash between reality and idealisation and why humbleness works. We all know how painful it is sometimes to see what is real and abandoning any idealisation.   This painful process of growth into ‘adultness’ is part of our humble acceptance of the fragile condition intrinsic to being ‘human beings’ and, as such, fallible, mediocre and, in one word and overall, affected of the state of believing to be different from what we are, governed by unawareness and the ability of blaming others of the same defects and drawbacks we cannot (which means ‘we do not want to’) recognise in ourselves.  Flaubert Madame Bovary’s is the example of the failed norm of human life, exposed in Emma (Bovary) in the failed idealisation of love as an absolute ideal and in the lack of acceptance of realty (including oneself and one’s vulnerable humanity). Since realty is always disappointing with respect to an absolute ideal, Emma hates it, and, when reality materialises from a state of pure pote...

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I STOP TO TRY TO CONTROL WHAT I CANNOT CONTROL

We, Human Beings love to feel we have control over our life, this comes from a state of pure fear connected with our physical vulnerability for example.  We have this massive illusion that we can control, with our actions and behaviours, the outside world and our life.  I do not believe in this simplistic way of looking at reality, it does not work.  Of course we can try to control the outside world, people, places and things and sometimes we succeed or we have the impression of succeeding, until something else happens that shows us our failure of this "mission impossible".  Generally our subconscious mind, past emotional rubbish gets in the way: as for the universal law that wants our soul to be clear we attract the very thing we are trying to avoid by trying to control. We are a magnet for all our fears, because our fears hide emotions we need to feel.  When I let go control and I allow myself to act instinctively I am free. My only obligation (if you want to ...