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Never took a certain action? Terrorised or just anxious to move forward? Do it once, it will be like lifting a big rock…do it again it will have less weight…do it again…and again…it will become normal and then move forward to another action you’ve never taken… Practice makes perfect! 


Sometimes we are fearful to be humble, to say the truth about ourselves, or admit a mistake we've made or a decision we've taken out of fear (decisions taken out of fear are essentially and intrinsically dishonest because fear, being it based on a false conviction, is a dishonest state of mind - mostly a projection on the future based on past events or experiences - what is it more untrue/dishonest than this?). Why are we so fearful to be humble, to make ourselves 'seen' from others? The reasons are multiples but all connected to an internal belief that if we become vulnerable, if we are honest expressing our feelings, our beliefs, our anger (this is a big one we want to hide at all costs) we will be disliked, rejected, judged, abandoned. It is exactly the contrary, the more true we are the more we are sure we are being loved from the people who likes us! The more exercise we make to be honest by becoming vulnerable the more we become connected with our true self (which


I feel so grateful today, I’ve seen the world with the eyes of God, with the eyes of love and compassion and joy, with the eyes of empathy, with the eyes of wisdom; with the same eyes some others see the world so we can see the same and feel the same: the sense of the days becoming smaller and the little things becoming bigger, like the eyes of my brother today when he looked at me and we said goodbye, he looked like the little boy I played with, running to collect seashells, endlessly during the summers of our youth, with fake tattoos (recurrent gifts of our mother’s best friend) stamped in our harms and flat chests, fading tattoos with animals, sun rays, dolls, cars and all the rest: the monolithic hope in our hearts and the stupid children’s innocent certainty that things could only get better. I feel so grateful today. 


Why sometimes it feels so scary to be Honest? We are social beings and we need social interactions to survive. We feel we need to be appreciated and loved. Sometimes we try to ‘grab’ those things by forgetting our values, our truth, our integrity. By doing so we became even more dependant and weak. When we are dishonest because we feel that we will be disliked, unloved, abandoned, we are abandoning ourselves first.


FEAR: Fake Experience Appearing Real LOVE: Libertas Omnius (Rerum) Veritas Est Fear is lack of faith, generally connected with the lack of knowledge of the truth which is what gives us freedom. When we are free (we know the truth) we cannot be in fear because we are not fearful of the the truth, we are fearful of the actions we might have to take when we know the truth. So freedom comes from knowing the truth, freedom to choose, even if we decide to choose what we do not like, it does not matter because we have made a choice out of freedom (love) and not of fear.


Love is inside every individual and it is what expands our consciousness. I am not speaking about love but about LOVE which, in all capital letters, means a state of being. If we are not in LOVE, we are not in Fear. Fear prevents our consciousness to expand, Fear shouts down our awareness.  So the more fearful we became the less aware of what is happening we are. A terrible circle. The real fear we all have is of the responsibility that comes with knowledge, the real fear is to having to act based upon knowledge because this requires courage and we cannot have courage if we’ve lost hope. So the question is how to build hope in order to face our fears. [Look out for my post with the title: 'How to build hope]'. To be continued...


It is in our culture to learn to fight, we refer to children who have difficulties as: 'little soldier' and we praise them for being strong and facing abusive reality and accepting it (as injustice for example). When I have heard this way of saying for the first time I shivered inside.  A child behaving like a little soldier? A child who has learned to loose his vulnerability, who has built a facade and pretend everything is all right when inside he is crumbling? I felt so much pity for that little child.  We have been told to be strong, not to cry and face reality. We have been told that when we give up and we surrender we are losers, we have learned to fight and to win at all costs, our integrity included.  I am not saying that perseverance is a 'bad quality' I think perseverance is the only tool we have to reach our full potential as human beings, to move forward toward the unknown. Spiritual growth is painful, it is the most painful journey of humankind but after th


When I was young - until I was around more or less 34 - I did not have any discipline. I would start something and if I did not have almost immediate results I would give it up, just to start something new. I have reflected on that behaviours (or habits of behaviour) several times and I realised a few reasons were the cause of my lack of discipline: 1. I could not find any pleasure in what I was doing. Why? Because I was not enjoying the process since the only reason I was starting something was to obtain a result, an end goal.  I was not going to play tennis to have fun but I was going to play tennis to reach a better level, I was not reading a book for knowledge in itself but to show off my knowledge, et etc… There was no one single thing I was doing for the simple pleasure of doing it in that moment only. I was acting projected in the future and refusing to enjoy my present.  2. I was always questioning my abilities and I was never happy with my capabilities of the moment. Again the


When I did not know how to be free, or what freedom meant and how to obtain it (meaning following my wishes and desires, valuing my time, being able to say no when I felt so, speaking my truth) I was placing fake love above freedom. How is it? And what is the difference between true love and fake love? Is there something like fake love and how do we identify it within ourselves?  Fake Love: We exercise 'fake love' every time we think we ought to so something for someone else, or we ought to say something, or we ought to behave in a certain way, because we feel we own this 'something' to someone or because we are terrorised of asserting our needs (some people have behaved this was for so long they do not even recognise their needs anymore).  Every time we act in those ways we are exercising 'fake love'. What does fake love do to the person 'doing the fake love' and to others? TO THE PERSON DOING 'FAKE LOVE': it diminishes that person, his/her self


We admire persons who act with integrity, meaning that they respect the words they say, they are honest and respect the promises they make. It is very difficult to act with integrity if we live in fear, fear of not being accepted, or not being liked, ultimately fear of not being loved, in this fear we forget our values and act dishonestly only because we are begging for love. This is common for a lot of people. How to move forward? How to overcame this paralysing  fear?  First of all we need to understand what we need, and to do so we need to give a name to our feelings.  Unfortunately one of the consequence of fear is that when we are in fear we loose awareness. We became less aware of our feelings, for example. So we have to find a way to remove the fear, to accept that even IF we will not be loved when we are ourselves or speak our truth (the idea of not being loved is a projection in the future a reflection of our thinking that creates the fear) we will survive. How to remove the f


I studied Law and practised Law because I wanted Justice, sometimes I feel I studied Law because I wanted to know God, since the ideal of God is inherent in every human being.  The Law of God (Natural Law) is Justice, therefore Justice is God, and because Justice is Love, the consequence is that Love is God, and, since another word for God is the Truth [not because God is necessarily the Truth but because the Truth is definitely God - meaning that the Truth is fundamental to attain Freedom, and we cannot attain Freedom without Knowledge, Knowledge of the Truth] we need to have Knowledge of the Truth to be able to practice Justice. Therefore if God (knowledge of what is True) comes before Justice, Knowledge comes before Justice. So the question is, how to attain Knowledge? To attain Knowledge, knowledge of ourselves, we need to put in practice one spiritual principle called Courage, the Courage to accept the pain of the dissolving of the Ego through Humbleness.  So Humbleness comes befo


Which ones I have learned to follow to feel happy and fulfil my full potential? I am Italian and I bet there is not a more Catholic country than Italy in the world - apart from Ireland [and Nigeria, South America, etc, etc, etc...]. In Italy you are either Catholic or Agnostic or, even worse, an Atheist. I was born in the North of Italy, a small town called Trieste, a town which was part of the Austrian-Hungarian Empire for over 450 years. A very catholic Empire indeed. My mother, my father and their parents were Atheist. Me, I was placed in a Catholic kindergarten (only because it was closer to home); as you see you do not need to be from a Catholic country to be a hypocrite (even if it helps) you just need to be a human being. [Apologies for the generalisations, which I do not like, the two above are necessary only because they help with the jokes :)] Going back to the kindergarten, which was obviously run by Catholic nuns who, generally (another generalisation, again!) are considere